Multitasking with a Baby Wrap
Hands Free Nursing and Pushing Two Girls on the Swings
3 months old
Belle is three months now, and fourteen lbs! I find that I am not wrapping her legs in anymore. They are so long and strong that they no longer seem to be part of the bundle I used to wrap. Instead of a newborn ball, Belle is unfolding into a more humanoid shape!
Front Cross Carry with Mary EllaRoo
Current favorite carries are:
- still the Front Cross Carry (FCC) most often and anytime we go out because she is still nursing a lot and it is still the easiest to adjust into nursing position, and simplest for popping in and out of as we drive from errand to errand.
- still Double Hammock Carry (DHC) for a back carry because it is just so easy, solid, and comfy, and I can do it with the same size wrap that I want with me for the FCC
- DHC’s shorter cousin the Reinforced Rear Rebozo Rucksack (RRRR) because it’s even faster and simpler than DHC with the same sturdiness and a great high back carry for hot weather since it can be done with 3 meters
And I think maybe I’ll play with some hip carries today and keep you posted!
Wrapping and Camping
Last weekend we took our two kids–aged five years and just shy of three months–camping for three days! It was the Harvest of Hope Festival. It rained some serious rain the first day and night and was beautiful and muddy the next two days.
Our kids slept amazingly well in the sleeping bags as loud, drunk people shouted past and stumbled into our tent throughout the night. It was so cozy having the four of us cuddled up so closely on out tiny, portable room.
At night we all listened to the sound of rain on the canvas ceiling and walls and in the morning Belle gazed up with joy and awe at the glowing tent walls billowing in noisy wind. It was SO nice that my husband is seriously considering my crazy plan to live in a yurt in the mountains!
Belle gazing at the tent walls.
By day we weren’t much in the tent and Annabelle wasn’t much out of the wrap! I kept the Front Cross Carry tied on and out of the mud. The mud was so prevalent that there wasn’t anywhere to put a baby down when we weren’t in the campgrounds so she came out only for the occasional potty/diaper change, and to listen to Kimya Dawson’s childrens show while Ada went onstage to join the band!
Kids at Harvest of Hope 2010.
Belle listening to the concert.
Ada plays with Kimya Dawson at 2010 Harvest of Hope.
Wrapping liberated me to go camping with my kids and I am so glad!
Double Hammock with Crosses instead of Rebozo Passes
The Double Hammock Carry is a back carry done with two rebozo passes over baby. They are like hammocks because they do not cross between baby’s legs, but support baby’s body with legs sticking out from underneath. Well, a stray comment on TheBabyWearer inspired me to try doing the Double Hammock Carry with the crosses between baby’s legs.
Verdict? It was fine. Spreading the wrap across the torso is kind of silly, though, because the wrap is bunched up from under baby’s legs as it comes around your torso, and the spreading isn’t going to be tight and supportive as it is with the standard double hammock where the wrap comes around your torso above baby’s legs and is already spread wide and flat.
I didn’t find it uncomfortable or saggy with my little baby, but I doubt it would hold up for long with a bigger child.
The front of the modified Double Hammock Carry tied with a half knot.
You can see that the wrap crosses between her legs like a Back Wrap Cross Carry.
The wrap comes from under her leg to spread out over my chest.
Standing in the Wrap
Sometimes as I wrap Belle she stretches her legs out to push against the bottom of the wrap. Usually she’ll eventually bend her knees and sink down some and my wrap job may not be as snug around us as I’d like, anymore. It’s easy to reach through and just bend her knees so that she is in position and I can snug the wrap job. Here it is with a Front Cross Carry:
You can see that she is standing up in this Front Cross Carry.
Reaching in under the crosses to bend her knees.
Side view of reaching under the crosses to position her legs.
Nursing in One Cross of the Front Cross Carry
I’ve recently hit upon my new favorite nursing position. I guess I’ve been wrapping Belle with legs out more often. Now I’ve found that if I start in an upright Front Cross Carry, I can get a really comfortable and rock-solid nursing position (meaning truly hands-free) every time by lifting one of the crosses out from between her legs so that she leans sideways.
Let me explain, then I’ll post some pics to clarify. I loosen the wrap a little, then lift Belle’s body so her weight’s not on the wrap, then I pull one of the crosses down from between her legs and around her body so that both legs are sticking out one side. If I’m going to nurse her on my left side, then the cross coming over my right shoulder is the one that I’ll remove from between her legs. Now that cross will be coming from my right shoulder, around her body, and around my left hip. Her cute little legs will be sticking out on my right side, with the other cross still between them, and her head will be positioned at my left breast.
And I suspect that this is one of those cases where a picture is worth a thousand words so without further explanation…
Legs sticking out of one FCC cross.
At the nursing end of the Front Cross Carry.
Something about this particular position is very easy for me to get adjusted just so and does not require adjustments thereafter so I’m what you call a fan!
Cleaning House While Wearing Baby
Saturday my mom took Ada to spend the night with her, and David and Annabelle and I cleaned the living room. It was so nice to just dedicate myself to cleaning for an hour or so, without distractions or interruptions and it was VERY nice to have a clean living room. I’ve been taking pains all week to keep it nice because I think we’re all happier when our space looks lovely.
Wrapping Belle meant that I wasn’t interrupted by a baby needing to be picked up. Wrapping her on my back meant that I was even able to lean over the washing machine, and there was no bundle in front of me to interfere with sweeping! It also meant that Belle was a happy baby, cuddled up to her momma. Having just nursed, she happily went to sleep and my body movements kept her asleep for the duration. Lucky kid woke up to find all of the work finished!
Sweeping while Belle snoozes in a Reinforced Rear Rebozo Rucksack.
Doing laundry with Belle on my back.
Shopping with Two Kids
I’ve got it pretty easy. My big kid is five–a much more cooperative and responsible age than, say, three–and my little kid is only two months old, which means she’s easy to keep track of!
So shopping is not difficult. I buckle in Annabelle. Ada buckles in herself. When we get there, Ada lets herself out, carefully staying near the car, while I unbuckle Annabelle and slip her into my wrap (pretied in a front cross carry).
When we get into the store, Ada rides in the shopping cart and this is the only tricky part! With a baby wrapped on my front, it’s surprisingly difficult to lift Ada straight up and into the seat.
Out is easy. If I take the cart to our car, Ada enjoys climbing out into the trunk of our minivan and from there into her seat. I just hold the cart still. That is her preferred way but she can as easily climb out of the cart into the open side door next to her booster seat.
If we don’t take the cart into the parking lot, I just turn my back to Ada, and she climbs out of the cart onto my back and slides down. This is actually not awkward, difficult, or uncomfortable at all. I should have my husband video tape it sometime to demonstrate!
But getting Ada in the cart is difficult. I can manage it, by picking her up toward my side so as not to squash her sister, but always prefer to have her climb in without me if she can. We look for steps, or short walls that give her a boost into the cart.
It would be much easier if I had Annabelle on my back but she is almost always nursing while we run erranhds so for now, we make do.
I’m lucky my big girl is so willing and helpful!
A Family Affair
Reinforced Rear Rebozo Rucksack
Reinforced Rear Rebozo Rucksack
Front Cross Carry
Front Cross Carry
Uses for a Rebozo
A rebozo is a short wrap. In Mexico they are scarves as well as baby carriers, and serve many other uses. Here’s one:
On the Farm
I took Ada to pet the new lambs at a local farm. She wanted to babywear too, so here we both are, wrapped up on the farm:
Florida State Fair
Babywearing, and nursing, at the Florida State Fair:
Nursing on the Ferris Wheel
Goat, Annabelle, and I
Sideways in the Front Cross Carry
Above you can see where I put Annabelle in the front cross carry sideways. I figured it would give her a view while still supporting her in a physiologically safe way, and giving her a way to cuddle against me before she became overstimulated. I think it’ll work great, but the fact is that right now all she wants to do, especially in a noisy public place, is nurse. So she soon ended up tummy to tummy again. Also known as mouth to nipple.
Once or twice we ended up stuck behind a clunky stroller trying to maneuver through the muck of the fair. I was glad not to be so burdened, and also not to be burdening my fellow fair-goer!
Babywearing Meeting
I love our local weekly moms group (and if you live anywhere near Pinellas County Florida you’re invited–Wednesday’s at 11am at the Dunedin Labor of Love). It is so much fun to hang out with a group of strong women and happy babies and be able to ask questions of and discuss topics with the kind of people whose answers you respect and appreciate!
And I get to wrap with other moms. Sometimes I’m showing them the ropes (showing them the wraps?), sometimes we’re just having fun. Wrapping is fun, but wrapping in good company is better:
Getting wrapped up together!
Our babies are in the same position as when they were in the womb!
High Back Carry For the Non-flexible Parent
Sometimes when I’m showing someone how to adjust the wrap behind them, I run into this problem that they simply cannot reach as well as I can. So I had to learn a new way to wrap up a little baby in a high back carry. A way to do it without reaching high up my back.
Today I experimented with a rucksack. I found that I could do the entire carry, bringing the straps over and under the legs, while my 7 week old baby was very low on my back. Then a few bouncing tugs on the tails hiked her up to my neck. Voila!
I’m so good, I even had it together to make a video!
Spoiling Babies
A (well meaning) friend asked with concern whether Annabelle sleeps outside the wrap since “it just seems like such a comfortable place to sleep!”
I hastily assured her that Annabelle sleeps just fine in her cradle by day and in our bed at night. “But not on me,” I assured her. I was quick to defend babywearing from the implication of spoiling babies. But upon reflection, I wonder at this obsession with not letting babies get too attached, and I wish I could say that I had answered, “I don’t know how she would sleep without me and I’m not interested in finding out!”
We don’t have to teach infants independence. They’re incapable of independence– they rely on us completely. As they become capable their independence will spring from the knowledge of security in our love and support. Do we want to teach our children that they can sooth themselves by demonstrating that they survive our neglect, or do we want them to learn self-soothing from our loving example?
The fact is that infants are designed to be on their mothers constantly. Mother and baby thrive this way and the more devices and conveniences separate a baby from his mother, the more benefits are lost.
Perhaps if our culture could shift the emphasis in child rearing away from convenience and toward constant nurturing, we might discover the “convenience” of satisfied, thriving babies; of children who completely trust parents; of neighbors, co-workers, and politicians who have all benefited from an early introduction to a love-filled world . . .
I’m not recommending martyrdom. In fact, I experience relief from pressures when I remind myself not to worry about my actions “spoiling” my child by allowing her to become accustomed to sleeping in-arms, nursing-on-demand, and having her every newborn whim catered to as best I can. Once I let those considerations go, I find that I am free to delight in the constant sight, smell, sound, and feel of my baby. I am free to neglect the dusting, let the machine answer the phone, and wear the same outfit I wore yesterday. I am free to spend hours relaxing with my baby and I find that catering to her every whim provides an enjoyment and satisfaction beyond anything I could get done while she naps in the cradle.
I’m not going to waste my time worrying that she’ll never learn to sleep by herself. People all across the globe and throughout history have managed it.
Just my opinion but the only “spoiled” baby is the one whose babyhood is wasted on sleep training and feeding schedules. Even then, the baby isn’t spoiled–it’s really just the time together that’s been spoiled. And there’s no getting that time back.
Ecological Breastfeeding
The term is brand new to me, but it turns out I already practice ecological breastfeeding!
I came across it in my search for an acceptable birth control method. Ecological breastfeeding is free, comfortable, and natural–it fits all my criteria!
Wikipedia reports that it has a 1% failure rate in the first six months of a baby’s life, and only 6% failure rate after that until the woman’s period returns. Pretty good rates for something I was doing anyway.
According to Wikipedia:
- Breastfeeding must be the infant’s only source of nutrition – no formula, no pumping, and (if the infant is less than six months old) no solids or water at all.
- The infant must be pacified at the breast, not with pacifiers or bottles or by placing a finger in the mouth.
- The infant must be breastfed frequently. The standards for LAM (lactational amenorrhea method) are a bare minimum; greater frequency is better. Sucking should include non-nutritive sucking when the infant cues the mother, not just breastfeeding as a means of nutrition. Scheduling of feedings is incompatible with LAM.
- Mothers must practice safe co-sleeping as it is the proximity of the child to the mother that increases prolactin.
- Mothers must not be separated from their infants. This includes substitutes for mother such as babysitters and even strollers or anything else that comes between mother and physical contact with her child. Babywearing (using cloth carriers) means tactile stimulation between mother and child and increases access to the breast. Any separation from the mother will decrease the efficacy of ecological breast feeding.
- Mothers must take daily naps with their infants.
- A mother must not have had a period after 56 days post-partum (bleeding prior to 56 days post-partum can be ignored).
I don’t nap with Annabelle (I would if I didn’t have a five year old to keep up with) but she does nap on me, and I assume it is the proximity, not the sleep, which contributes to the effectiveness of ecological birth control.
And so I have discovered another benefit to the family of babywearing: it contributes to convenient spacing of babies and helps avoid the use of dangerous or inconvenient birth control methods!
Does it seem to anyone else that so many “modern conveniences” (strollers, pacifiers, cribs, and bottles) end up being more of an inconvenience than anything else?
Newborn Wrapping: Newborn Legs In or Legs Out
Wondering whether to wrap your newborn legs in or legs out?
The real question of legs in/legs out is how best to support YOUR newborn in a comfortable and ergonomic way.
Optimum newborn positioning includes:
- pelvis tilted forward
- knees higher than bottom
- knees spread about as wide as baby’s pelvis
So Should I Wrap My Newborn Legs In or Legs Out?
You should wrap around baby in a position that your newborn’s legs are naturally inclined to rest in. You will find that baby will tuck knees up, not spread too far apart.
Usually you can wrap around your newborn baby with legs out while maintaining this natural position.
Baby does not need to be able to spread legs wide or straddle your torso. In fact, newborn legs are so tiny that the length of thigh from bottom to knee fits in front of a mama’s tummy with only a slight spread.
Wrapping a newborn with legs out is often more comfortable for baby.
And with newborn legs out, you can view baby’s feet to monitor circulation.
In the photos below you can see that Annabelle’s legs do not have to stretch around my waist or spread wide across my torso–she’s 6 weeks old in these pictures, and I’m wearing her low in the second picture because she’s been nursing in the front wrap cross carry.
Newborn legs don’t have to straddle your waist!
When is it Good to Wrap Newborn with Legs In?
Before 2010, it was most common (among US and European babywearers) to wrap a newborn baby with legs in – inside the wrap – in what was referred to as “froggy leg” position.
Because of this, there are a lot of older photos, videos, and resources that show this style of legs-in newborn babywearing.
There’s nothing wrong with wrapping a newborn with legs in the wrap – as long as you are doing safe positioning.
So make sure baby’s knees are not spread too wide.
Make sure baby’s weight is not on baby’s feet.
Make sure baby’s feet are comfortably flexed.
Sometimes newborns are very accustomed to being curled up. And if that is what your baby’s body seems to want to do, go with it!
Here’s an example of a newborn who was not uncurled enough to wrap with legs out, but whose little feet did stick out:
Learn more about how to wrap your newborn baby here!
In conclusion, do what works best for you and your baby in terms of leg position. Newborn legs in or legs out, either way is fine.
Newborn in a Mei Tai
I love our mei tai but I NEVER wear it because I REALLY love our wraps!
Someone at our mom’s group asked me to demonstrate the mei tai, so I put Annabelle on my front. I’m glad I got a picture of her in there–don’t know when she’ll be in there again!
The mei tai is very comfy, though. I put her in with her legs tucked in.
This is our very first mei tai. A Freehand Mei Tai made by Kaire when she still owned her business. Love it!
6 week old Annabelle in the Mei Tai
Happiest Baby on the Block
I recently watched the Happiest Baby on the Block DVD which offers five techniques to calm a crying baby:
swaddling
side or stomach lying
shushing, or white noise
swinging/bouncing and
sucking
If the author is correct that these five things trigger a baby’s calming instinct, it does explain why so many of us have had such fine results with wrapping which holds our babies close like a swaddle; which presses our baby’s tummy against our bodies just as with a stomach lying position; which exposes our baby to the constant sounds of our heartbeat, breathing and intestinal machinations; which bounces our baby with incessant human motion; and which contributes convenience to nursing-on-demand.
I say he’s on to something!
Going Out With a Newborn
I felt great after Annabelle was born (perhaps due to consuming the placenta?) and was eager to go out with her after the first few days. I wanted to show that baby off!
I turned to the front cross carry for a poppable, pretied carry. It is perfect! I tie it on at home and often use it to carry Annabelle to the car when I need my hands for the diaper bag, snacks, jackets, library books, etc. I take her out and put her in the carseat, leaving the front cross carry tied on me. When we park, I take Annabelle out of her seat and pop her into the wrap without retying. I do adjust depending on whether she wants to nurse or not—for nursing I usually wear her in it upright but a lot lower so that her mouth lines up with my breast.
When we get back to the car it’s the same routine—pop her out and into the carseat. When we get home, pop her back in so I can carry groceries, bags, etc.
The front cross carry is often touted as being the much more poppable carry over the front wrap cross carry, but I have found FWCC to also be easy to pop my newborn in and out of. There is one additional pass of the wrap with the FWCC, so that means three pockets to sort out putting the baby into, but this has not been difficult.
However, I eventually settled on the front cross carry as my preferred out and about carry and this is why. First, the knot is tied in the front, so that I am not leaning back on a big old knot while driving. Of course, one could use a longer wrap for the FWCC and bring it around to the front to tie and solve that problem. Second, the FCC is very easy to tie on without your baby, and approximate the fit so that there is little adjusting needed when you do slide your baby in. With the FWCC, I need to have baby in it when I tie it.
Another carry that I love for poppability is the hip cross carry. This one could also be tied on without baby and fit fairly well with little adjustment. However, with a newborn nursing almost constantly, I prefer the discretion offered by the cross carries. A one shouldered carry like the hip cross carry just doesn’t provide adequate cover. I use it for nursing at home, but despite being a fairly unashamed breastfeeding mother, I want more modesty at the grocery store. The hip cross carry is fairly discreet when nursing on the same side that the wrap goes over my shoulder, but when we inevitably switch, I’m feeling too much of a breeze! Nursing in the HCC in a cradle position is fairly discreet, but I prefer the convenience of nursing my baby upright so that she can switch sides and doesn’t need to be taken out to be burped.
Thus, I’m loving my front cross carry for traveling!
Nursing in th FCC While Bagging Groceries (5 wks)